I like to focus on what is working well in your life, before we get to the areas that could use some improvement. My communication style is interactive and engaging, and I often use humor when it's appropriate. Some of the ways we learned to survive as a child don’t translate well to help us thrive as an adult. I will help you learn new and creative ways to look at your life. By identifying and understanding the interplay between your beliefs and emotions, you can begin to reimagine your life in a way that makes more sense to you. My focus also includes helping you to let go of fear, and to recognize physical and emotional cues from your body, so that you can live a life full of meaning and connection, and work toward your dreams. My goal for you is that you become more engaged and more connected to what's important to you. Sometimes we simply need someone to listen to our story, without judgement.
I have been working with couples for over a decade and find it very rewarding. Whether you feel disconnected and just want to get back on track, or you and your partner are highly conflictual and can’t remember the last time you had fun together…. I welcome you. Together, we will work to find the patterns that you have developed that keep you stuck, and look at new ways of approaching each other. I will guide you and give you the tools to make a difference in your relationship. I hope that both of you will feel heard and respected. I incorporate elements of The Gottman Method couples counseling, along with other therapeutic interventions. I will look at your patterns of connection and what is causing you to disconnect, and help you both see these patterns from a different perspective. Together, we will look at the way your emotions and actions create instances of turning toward each other, or turning away from each other. I will help you to find new ways of relating to each other, ways to connect, and perhaps most importantly, find hope in your relationship….even if you can’t see it now.
In graduate school, I studied systems theory and fell in love with it. The focus of this involves examining how each of us interacts as members within systems, such as families, communities, and social groups. Generally, when I practice family therapy, I work with adults and/or adolescents. I strive to help you find joy and laughter again and feel a sense of connection. It takes courage to come to therapy, and I understand that. I will work alongside you to look at self-defeating patterns, while illuminating the strengths that you already possess. I will look at the patterns that are being repeated from previous generations, and challenge thoughts that are destructive and lead to disconnection. Looking inward is something I will encourage, as our internal thoughts and feelings often drive our external actions. There is a difference between responding to a situation and reacting to it. You will learn the difference and see how this plays out with your interactions with others. We will come up with goals and together, we will work toward them. You will learn new tools and realize how resilient you really are. There is hope, even if you have not seen it for a while.
I am currently offering Telehealth sessions through a secure, on-line video platform. I am looking forward to resuming in-person ("3-D") sessions in May 2022. I will continue to keep the safety of the community a priority.